Pity Party
February 7, 2009

Put on your festive hat and pull out the confetti, ’cause we’re havin’ a pity party up in here! Oh my WORD, Internets, I am needing some love. My week STUNK! LITERALLY!!!!!!
It all started with a fateful call to my SIL over a week ago, “Yeah, even though there is a lot of drama in my extended family right now… we are doing pretty good in my house. I am on top of everything, and able to handle stress better than I used to.” JINX!
I am happy to report that for the past 2 months Percy had been going through a pretty easygoing period. I had just recently started to relax out of my manic “survival mode”… you know, the one where I am the Energizer Bunny & keep going going going. But in that mode I got SO MUCH DONE!!!! Problem is there is no middle ground for me, so after that I kind of stalled. BIG mistake. I got behind on housework and paperwork last week. This has really come back to haunt me this week.
Things started getting complicated last Saturday when Percy turned back into his alter-ego, Bizzarro Percy (I don’t mean that disrespectfully. I am alluding to comic books… Superman and his alter-ego Bizzarro Superman). At Music Class, which he LOVES, he had his worst episode EVER and it made me so sad & scared. It hasn’t gotten much better from there. He had been like this for about 2 months in Oct/Nov (which prompted me to go on anti-depressants), and then had those 2 good months. So I guess I am in for 2 rough months again. He is back to EXCESSIVE tantruming, hitting, biting, rigidity, destructiveness. It in itself is exhausting.
And of course Thomas was sick last Sunday, and then Thursday BOTH kids got sick. Not only is that time-consuming and exhausting and you worry for your kids but it also ruins social plans. And you know what, when you have kids with special needs you really NEED social activities. No church last week OR this week, we had to cancel fun plans for last night AND tonight, AND it is 60 degrees outside and sunny and I am stuck inside with poop and puke! POUT!!!!!!!
YES, that’s right, the vomit monster is back AGAIN! Oh how I wish it was a 24-hour thing, but NO, it’s Rotavirus. First Percy… in the church hall, then the church bathroom, then the car, then the bathtub, then the bed. Oh, by the way, when Percy threw up in the church bathroom I called for help and the male youth minister came in to assist. You should have seen the funny looks he got when he came out. That is how rumors get started
. Seriously though, he is an awesome man, a real servant. And then Percy threw up in the car on the way to the Pharmacy and I couldn’t do anything about it. I rolled down the window to let the Pharmacist (who is my Buddy) see a dripping Percy, and he said, “Niiiiice!”
And now the Monster has moved on to dear Thomas. At 1am this morning… and 1:30am… and 2am… and 4am. Thank goodness for hardwood floors and my Shark Steam Mop. Oh, and plastic gloves. I had wanted to mop Thomas’s floor, but not at 2am! Go, go Gadget Steam Mop! To make things worse Percy has now graduated to the leaky and STINKY diarrhea while Thomas is puking so I have MASS QUANTITIES of laundry. I hate messes. I am a germophobe. I don’t think I will ever feel clean again.
So anyway, the point is, I was already feeling sorry for myself because my youngest kept trying to bite me and my house was a mess and I felt overwhelmed and my Christmas tree was still up and now I have EVEN MORE to deal with. Such is life. LOL, I guess I should be cleaning instead of blogging, huh? But this is making me feel better. But I am going to log off now and keep on dealing with my life and its drama. Like Dory in Finding Nemo, I will “just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming, swimming, swimming. What can we do? We swim, swim…”
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Casdok | February 7, 2009 at 12:36 pm
I feel for you. Hope you are keeping your head above water as you swim. And hope everyone is feeling better very soon.
C used to have a 6 month cycle of good then bad months.
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Kemi | February 7, 2009 at 12:40 pm
I’m sorry for your horrible week. You have so much to deal with already.
Be sure to give yourself a few minutes of “me” time, if you can work it in between the clean-up and the endless amounts of laundry. If you have TWO with Rotavirus, you deserve a week-long vacation.
We’ve done Rotavirus several times here, and it’s a nightmare. (Two of the times required hospitalization.) The doctors told me to get LactoBacillus, which is a live yeast culture, and to dump it in yogurt or pudding or something my kids would eat. The cultures help with the diarrhea, so it lasts for 2-3 days, rather than 7-10. It’s an over-the-counter capsule.
Good luck.
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lynnes | February 7, 2009 at 12:54 pm
Oh you poor thing! Rotavirus was a nightmare. G caught it around 14 months and ended up hospitalized for dehydration. The thought of 2 kids with it at the same time makes me want to cry for you.
At the same time, I’m giggling at your description of Bizzaro Percy. We refer to G during meltdowns as the Incredible Hulk.
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Goldie | February 7, 2009 at 1:49 pm
Casdok, thanks. It helps me to know others have experienced similar “patterns”. This is all still pretty new to me so I didn’t know if that was what was going on. WHY I wonder???? What causes these cycles?
Kemi, it’s a great idea, but I can’t seem to make it work! I put Florastor in his juice and he refused it. since he has sensory integration issues he doesn’t eat mushy food so there is no way I can sneak it into anything right now. let me just tell you, digestive issues when you have an already picky eater, aieeeeeeeee!
Thanks lynne. i am glad to see I am not the only one who has felt that way!
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Goldie | February 7, 2009 at 1:53 pm
-sigh- and the drama continues. I just got a phonecall that a close family friend died. My parents are FAR FAR away on the tail end of a 3 week vacation and that complicates things… plus my mommy hasn’t been here to help me this week!!! A lot of bad things have happened to several people they love while they were gone and so they couldn’t just relax without feeling guilty. This is only the tip of the extended family drama we have had lately. My poor family. It has been a rough 3 weeks.
and mapman and I just spent the past HOUR cleaning up Thomas’s Geotrax train set with spray bottles, toothbrushes, and paper towels. Guess what he threw up on???? And that was an hour I was going to spend doing OTHER things so now I am even MORE behind.
*throws confetti* even MORE of a pity party!!!!!!
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Kemi | February 7, 2009 at 5:28 pm
Every piece of GeoTrax (except the engine with the batteries) can go in the dishwasher on the top rack.
Just in case you need to clean it up again.
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Kemi | February 7, 2009 at 5:30 pm
Oh, and the street signs with stickers. Don’t put those in the dishwasher.
Everything else? Cleans up beautifully.
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Tanya Savko | February 7, 2009 at 6:50 pm
We’ve also experienced the cyclical nature of progressive vs. regressive periods. It’s always unnerving. Add being sick, and it’s just no fun at all. Hope your boys get well soon. Take care.
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Danette | February 7, 2009 at 7:02 pm
Oh no, I’m so sorry to hear it’s been so rough lately
. My guys have had cycles like that too, with lots of meltdowns and general crankiness and then good periods where they are in much better moods things seem to go smoother for a while. Being sick doesn’t help, I hope they’re feeling better soon. Hopefully you have another ‘good period” around the corner!
@Kemi – that’s a great tip, I never thought of putting Geotrax in the dishwasher!
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mama mara | February 7, 2009 at 7:23 pm
My son Taz is also having a major mood meltdown, and I can’t increase my anti-depressant any higher, dabgummit.
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goodmum | February 8, 2009 at 12:42 am
You so deserve to throw yourself a pity party. And I think there should be a rule against puking. At all. I hate it when my kid gets the Puke Monster stuff. I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been dealing with this vomitous junk.
I hope this coming week is a much better one for you!
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Unbee | February 8, 2009 at 1:12 pm
Girl, that’s a rough week. But, look at it this way — next week almost HAS to be better than this one. I don’t know if that’s helpful or not. But we’re all here for ya’!
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highhopes1 | February 8, 2009 at 6:40 pm
Goldie,
*BREATHE* You deserve this pity party and a few more. I’m passing you a little drink. As for the Christmas tree – who cares? Throw some Valentine’s on it and set a trend. If its artificial its not going to burst into flames because its dried out.
The lactobacillus can be bought in a tastless powder form that stirs into juice and they won’t even know it is in there. Ask at a health food store. We have used it on baby girl in the past and it has worked like a charm. Try some pedialyte or gatoraid at least it tastes good and will give their tummies a rest and keep them hydrated. I hate the puke monster.
I am waving my magic wand and banishing them from your house. *zing* I really wish I could do that.
Hugs sweetie!
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Osh | February 9, 2009 at 4:30 am
Oh man, I am so sorry to hear of your no good week…you deserve some pampering, some good mood altering somethings and a nice soft bed…
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Goldie | February 9, 2009 at 12:58 pm
thanks everyone. they are -I think- finally on the mend today. did you know this can last up to a WEEK? -sigh- But maybe, just maybe, school will happen tomorrow. please… oh please…
at the height of the drama we simultaneously had a puking thomas with a fever of 104 and Percy with a stinky seeping mudbutt. Thank goodness he did NOT elect to particiapte in poop painting this time!!!!
KEMI! *thunk* BRILLIANT!!! ohhhh that would have saved me sooooo much time!!!
Tanya & Danette… was there a detectable pattern? Triggers? I am increasingly interested in this phenomenon. It IS unnerving!
Mara, I wish I could hug you.
goodmum, unbee, hh THANK YOU!!!!
and Osh, sleep can NOT come soon enough…
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High Hopes | February 9, 2009 at 2:19 pm
I hope all is on the mend! I hope you get some rest! {{{Hugs}}}
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widdleshamrock | February 9, 2009 at 3:33 pm
Huge hugs sweets.
Yes, seeing our kids regress is always upsetting. I rack my brain for a trigger and go into ‘fix it’ mode which is really a waste of time because sometimes it just is.
And agree with you finding YOU time. Listen, I ended up on meds for 2 years. Now, I am kinder to myself.
A burnt out, worn out Mummy is no good to anyone.
Look after yourself, you hear ?? Mwah
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susan taylor | February 9, 2009 at 7:30 pm
Oh, Goldie! I’m so sorry you are struggling. How difficult to have so many things happening at once! All I can say is — take care of yourself — sleep, eat, drink water, minimal sugar intake — those are the things that help me feel the best. (((((hugs)))))
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thecanvasgrey | February 9, 2009 at 9:24 pm
Sending prayers your way with some knowing hugs!
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teeveebee | February 13, 2009 at 2:52 am
Oh, my! I sure hope things are going better, Goldie. I haven’t stopped by your blog for a few days and I was distressed to read how difficult it has been for you lately.
You will be in my prayers this evening!
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hellokittiemama/MT | February 15, 2009 at 12:16 am
ugh! I’m joining your pity party!!!!
We had the sickies at the same time you did. I thought they were gone, aside from some coughs and sniffles but the fevers were gone. Well POOF
Alex puked today – mass quantities. I can’t handle it, makes me want to puke too. My valentines day (of which I’m not a fan but that was going to be my comment on your other post LOL) spent trying not to hurl as I cleaned up my bathroom and LIVING ROOM carpet. Yeah, not so lucky to have hardwoods throughout…. ugh.
Hope the sickies are done with over there and that your valentine’s day was a good one.
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High Hopes | February 16, 2009 at 4:18 pm
I’m having my own pity party today. Baby girl has a fever of 103.5 it went down from 104.5 (Yikes), she has a cough, and feeling barfy. Oy! We are off to the doc this afternoon because of the cough/asthma. To top it all off my fancy in the ear thermometer decided it was going to die today too, so I have to pick one of those up now.
She keeps threatening to barf and I had to run around the house looking for extra buckets, one for dirty kleenex and one for barfing. I didn’t realize we have a shortage of little wastebaskets.
I had to work today, so good thing Granny is available. I so love my mom she is always there for me.
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kristi | February 20, 2009 at 10:41 am
Hi! I just found your blog. I am sorry your week was rough. We have unpredictable weather and my Autistic son has had asthma issues for weeks….plus I was sick, Hubs was sick and daughter was sick. Not a good year so far!